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OUMH1303ENGLISH FOR ORAL COMMUNICATION

MAY 2014

NAME : NOR AZMI

BIN MOHAMAD REJAB

MATRIC NUMBER : 680227075595001

ID CARD NUMBER : 680227-07-5595

NO. TELEFON : 013-2203371

E-MEL : [email protected]

TUTOR : DR. NOR FAR!A "# $O%D NOR

LEARNING CENTRE : "AN&

WHAT DOES IT TAKE TO BE A GOOD PARENT?

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Dear Ladies and Gentlemen: Good morning and welcome to all of you. It is a great pleasure

for me to greet you here today. First of all, let me introduce myself. I am Mr. Nor Ami !in

Mohamad "e#a$, a founder of this !rainy Montessori since %& years ago. I graduated from

'(ford )ni*ersity and ma#oring in +sychology. oday, I would li-e to share with all of you

some tips to $e a good parent.

Ladies and gentlemen,

*ery parent wishes to $e the $est parents in the world. !ut when the life turns into

reality, most of them fail to remain to $e the $est parents or at least good parents. /ou ha*e to

understand that to $e a good parent, you need to -now how to ma-e your children feel *alued

and lo*ed, while teaching them the difference $etween right and wrong. /ou ha*e to $e

consistent in your parenting style. If you as- your -ids to follow certain rules, you should

apply the same rules. Do not $e fle(i$le according to your comfort. !ecause at the end of the

day, your children will see you as their mentor or idol in ma-ing any decision in their life.It

means that if you are good parents then your child will follow you and otherwise if you are

$ad person, you can thin- $y yourself what your child will $e0..

he most important characteristic to $e a good parent isrespect. A good parent is

respectful to their child, e*en when disciplining. 1hildren first learn respectful $eha*ioursfrom their parents and caregi*ers, so a child who is consistently treated respectfully $y his or

her parent is more li-ely to de*elop a healthy self2respect and respect for others including

their parent. +arents should -eep in mind that it is possi$le to $e respectful and firm at the

same time. If you teach your children to respect your pri*acy, then gi*e them the same in

return. For e(ample, if you teach your child that your room is out of $oundaries to them,

respect the same way with their room. Allow them to feel that once they enter their room they

can -now that no one entering there e(cept them. his will teach them to honour their own

space and to respect the pri*acy of others. If your child catches you snooping through his or

her things, then it may ta-e him a long time to $e a$le to truly trust you again. In the other

way, you ha*e to enforce reasona$le rules. nforce rules that apply to e*ery person leading a

happy and producti*e life 3 not model rules of your ideal person. It4s important to set rules

and guidelines that helps your child to de*elops and grows without $eing so strict which

ma-es your child feels li-e he can4t ta-e a step without doing something wrong. Ideally, your

child should lo*e you more than he fears your rules. Don4t assume that you can do anything

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without loo-ing into your children #ust $ecause you are parent and they to o$ey your rules

5e4*e to try to gain their respect towards us with our lo*e and cares.


he second characteristic to $e agood parent is empathy.In this case, you ha*e to

$e a good listener. he children nowadays need you to $e a good listener, a safe place to tal-

things out, and for the parent to put themsel*es in the child6s shoes, rather than #ump in and fi(

his pro$lems for him. A parent who is willing to tune into their child6s words, tone of *oice,

and $ody language, will ha*e a $etter chance of hearing what their child is really saying.

mpathic listening sets the stage for open communication and can go a long way in

strengthening the parent2child relationship. 1hildren need the care and concern parents. Ne*er

let them feel a*oided or unwanted. al- to them and always listen to them. 1hildren li-e to

tal- and they demand parents to $e good listeners. Ne*er o$struct the tal-s of children or

interfere. Let them e(press all their feelings to you and through this, you can understand what

they really want and how they feel a$out you. In this situation, I rather prefer 7re*erse

psychology8 to sol*e our childrens4 pro$lem. !ecause if you #ust hear and ma-e your own

decision, you4ll ma-e a gap $etween yourself and your children. /ou ne*er try once to $e a

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hirdly, isTrust.A good parent ta-es ad*antage of opportunities to allow their child

to ma-e age2appropriate decisions, there$y, instilling a le*el of trust in the child6s a$ility to do

so. For e(ample, when your children filling the )+) 9apply uni*ersity form form, you ha*e

to gi*e your child full trust in choosing course and uni*ersity that they want to choose.

!ecause that is what they want to $e. For your information, depend of my research and

e(perience, many uni*ersity students that fail or dismissed $y uni*ersity are those who are

entering uni*ersity without their own decision or in other words they6*e $een forced to study

there $y their parents and not $y their own choose. herefore, when they study there, they are

start ma-ing wrongdoings. ntrusting a child to ma-e certain choices is a great way to

empower a child, and ultimately help a child to learn how to ta-eresponsi$ility. 5hen parents

try to control too many things in a child6s life, it sends the message, ;I don6t trust you to ma-e

the right decisions, my way is $etter.; 1onse


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these #o$s, they ha*e the corresponding pri*ilege re*o-ed. *en the youngest of children can

learn this concept of reward or conse


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in your child, such as -indness, compassion, honesty, respectfulness, tolerance, patience,

honesty and unconditional lo*e.


A good parent need to $e c#ura$e.he need for courage in parenting can show up

in different ways, such as ta-ing an unpopular stand to instill *alues, rules, and limits, e*en if

it goes against what their child, or others may $elie*e. At other times, courage may $e needed

to let go and allow a child to ma-e certain choices and e(perience the conse


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instead of ha*ing an inferiority comple(. 1omparing one child to another can also ma-e one

child de*elop a ri*alry with his or her si$ling. /ou want to nurture a lo*ing relationship

$etween your children, not a competiti*e one. Don4t place unreasona$le e(pectations on your

child.

he ne(t characteristic to $e a good parent is %&!ersta&!"&$. +ro$a$ly one of the

hardest characteristics to de*elop in parenting, $ut the most needed, is the characteristic of

understanding. Many times it can $e hard for parents to deal with a child6s mis$eha*iors,

mostly $ecause they don6t understand them. 'ne of the worst things a parent can do is ta-e

their child6s mis$eha*iors personally. As part of their growth and de*elopment, children are

going to mis$eha*e and do things that go against the rules. Bnowing this can help parents

anticipate and redirect a child toward more positi*e and accepta$le $eha*iors, and a*oid a lot

of unnecessary anger. )nderstanding can also lead to forgi*eness. A good parent realies that

his children are human, and that ma-ing mista-es is part of growing up. >pending money

rec-lessly, getting into minor car accidents, getting drun- and sic- for the first time, e*en

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happiness, and their attainment of it, as well. Most children are naturally happy and en#oy

$eing around happy parents. (pressing lo*e and affection is *ery important in this character.

Many parents say that they lo*e their -ids more than any parents does, yet their -ids complain

of less affectionate and less lo*ed parents. Lo*e and affection when not e(pressed is

worthless. /ou need to ma-e your -ids feel that you lo*e your children. elling it to -ids or

e(pressions li-e a hug may accomplish this purpose. Gi*e them gifts and $e la*ish in

highlighting the good wor-s of our -ids.

My dear ladies and gentlemen,

!efore I ended my speech today, I ha*e important ad*ice to tell all of you a$out

managing our children. A teen that is on the $rin- of adulthood needs the support of a parent

more than e*er. Do not thin- that #ust $ecause they are almost @ or %@ years old that you can

lea*e them to thin- for themsel*es. Do not inter*ene or interfere unnecessarily, howe*er you

ha*e to wal- a fine line. I hope these will help us to $e a good parent. han- you.

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