Remaja

Memahami Psikologi Remaja Masa Kini

TakrufNamaDari Mana?Study apa dan di mana?Keja apa dan di mana?Satu sebab nak jadi fascilitator MHI?

Interactive I2 tugas utaman facilitator MHI?2 objektif utama MHI?2 cabaran utama sebagai facilitator MHI?

Interactive IIWhat is adolescence?Apa itu REMAJA?Siapa itu REMAJA?

DEFINISI REMAJA

Western Definition

Islamic Family Law (Federal Territories) Act 1984, s. 84(1)(2)The right of hadinah(custody) to the custody of the child terminates upon the child attaining the age of seven, in the case of a male, and the age of nine years in the case of female, but the Court may upon the application of hadinah, allows her to retain the custody of the child until the attainment of the age of nine years, in the case of a male, and the age of eleven years in the case of a female.After termination of the right of hadinah, the custody devolves upon the father, and if the child has reached the age of discernment (mumayyiz), he or she shall have a choice of living with either of the parents, unless the Court otherwise orders.

Definisi IslamWithin the Islamic education system, there are principally three fundamental stages in the manner in which education should be imparted to children. Between birth until six a child must be showered with utmost care and affection so much so that by the time he reaches the age of seven, he is convinced and secured of his parents love and affection. Between the ages of seven till ten, discipline must be introduced for this is the period when he reaches the age of discretion/discerning (mumaiyyiz) during which he should be encouraged to perform the basic rites of Islam namely performance of prayers and fasting during the Ramadhan. When he reaches ten disciplinary measures ought to be imposed upon non-compliance.

Definisi IslamDiangkatkan pembebanan hukum dari tiga (jenis orang): orang tidur sampai dia bangun, anak kecil sampai dia baligh, dan orang gila sampai ia sembuh. (Bukhari, Abu Daud, al-Tirmidzi, al-Nasai, Ibnu Majah dan al-Daruquthni dari Aisyah dan Ali bin Abi Thalib).

Definisi IslamLahir 6 tahun Menatang minyak yang penuhCurahkan segala kasih sayang6 tahun MumayyizMula ajar asas-asas agama dan ibadah wajibMereka sebagai murid10 tahun ke atas akil balighMula perkasakan disiplinMereka sebagai kawan dengan batas yang sesuai

Interactive IIIBased on your observations, what describes remaja?What are the keywords that describe/symbolize/explain remaja?

Psikologi Remaja

1: Ingin tahu, ingin rasa, ingin cuba (Curiosity)

Generasi Y

Anti-tradition?Question everythingRebelliousThink and act outside the boxNew things are always good!

Teknik InteraksiLayani dan santuni semua pertanyaanJangan terlalu skema atau judgementalGunakan experiential learningRole-play, doing things, critical thinking, rhetorical questionsJom kita alami di minda, sebelum rasa-rasa dan buat-buatSelitkan pandangan Quran dan Sunnah17:32; 23:3; 3:90-91

2: Kecelaruan Identiti

Identity Search

Identity SearchTraditional agents of identity development:FamilyReligion/NilaiCommunityFriendsSchoolModern agents:Technology (all kinds of gadgets)SchoolsFriendsNow & ThenThen emphasis on being the sameNow emphasis on being unique, different, one of a kind

Penceraian di Malaysia2000 2010 peningkatan 105%2012 20%1 penceraian bagi setiap 5 perkahwinanLebih 80% kes penceraian melibatkan pasangan Muslim1 penceraian dalam 15 minit

Teknik InteraksiKitalah ibu, kitalah ayahTerimalah mereka seadanya, dengarkan cerita mereka, peluk dan ciumlah perasaan merekaKitalah kawanFahamilah ranjau hidup mereka, selamilah lubuk hati merekaPerkenalkan icons atau role models yang positif Perkenalkan icons atau role models yang positif dari Quran dan SunnahPerkenalkan identiti kerjaya

3: Teknologi & Internet

Techno Savvy

Techno SavvyInternet, computer, Windows to other worldsTechnologyShortens emotionsTruncates thinkingEverything is at a click of a mouse fast, fast, fast!Technology is the source ofInformation good and badMaking human connections FB, etc.Entertainment music, games, etc.Visual/physical stimulationAddiction

Data from CIA World Factbook, as of 12 Jan. 2012ChinaUnited StatesJapanBrazilGermany IndiaMalaysia (26) Singapore (65)Samoa (198)Tonga (199)East Timor (207)

Star, 17 Nov 2012 (done by Nielsen & Social Bakers)

Internet users in Malaysia view social network sites 14 billion time every monthMalaysian internet users spend almost 20 hours per week online80% Malaysian have downloaded videos, followed by 51% actively in YouTube activity87.9% of Malaysians on the internet access Facebook67% of YouTube videos viewed in MalaysiaSingapore lead the Asian region in online usage, spending 25 hours online each week, followed by Pilipino 21.5% and 19.8% MalaysiansTotal 13 million of Facebook users in Malaysia

Penggunaan Internet di Kalangan Remaja MalaysiaChatting/Social Networking - FBHiburan (muzik, drama, games, etc.)MaklumatPornography - sexKerja sekolah

Internet AddictionCount the number of hours online21 hours, excluding academic-relatedFind the reason gaming:Lonely, looking for friendsParents not getting along stress busterPower or dominance issueFinancial rewardGradually reduce the number of hours onlineReplace the free hours with other healthy activities, but giving similar emotional satisfactionMonitor the progress

Pornography Addiction15-minute Rule TechniqueIt begins with a thought to see onlineGive it 15 minutes before switching it onDuring the 15 minutesSleep, talk to mom, watch tv, etc.If the thought is still there, give it another 15 minutesIt teaches self control

4. Impulsivity, Invincibility, Immediate Gratification (3Is)

Impulsivity, Invincibility, Immediate Gratification (3Is)Deadly combo:Impulsive I do as I feel; kalau rasa seronok, buat je..Invincible Unlimited energy Aku muda lagi, baru 15 tahun!Immediate gratification Now! Buat apa fikir2 pasal masa depan, lama lagi tu.Substance use and abuseRisk-taking behavior speeding, sex, etc.Technology oh technology!

Teknik InteraksiExperiential learningBincangkan isu-isu sensitif dengan terbukaSex, HIV/AIDS, Dadah, etc.Negative role modelsKaitkan gaya hidup sekarang dengan masa depan

5. Conflict & Contradictions

Conflict & Contradictions

Conflict & ContradictionsOn definition sandwich generationChild or adult?Physical vs. social?ConfusionTechnologyA sense of being adult can do better than many adults can!

Teknik InteraksiWahai faci, cakap mesti serupa bikin!Jangan selalu PMS!Expect ups and downs keep explaining.Regular follow-ups!Jadilah role models sebaik yang mungkin dan seorang kawan

Interactive IVApa yang boleh kita belajar dari kisah Badwi yang kencing dalam Masjid Nabi (saw)?

PengajaranTegur selepas emosi dah pulih/stabil.Bila nak betulkan remaja, jangan sampai jadi perkara yang lebih besar.Islam itu agama yang mudah. Jadi, permudahkanlah urusan manusia.Islam itu agama berkasih sayang; maka kasihkanlah sesama manusia.

MUTABAAHPemantauan, audit, follow-up, berterusan, mustamirrahAn-Naml, 27:20-23Abasa, 80:1-10Akhlak Rasulullah saw selepas solat bersama sahabatKerja rutin malaikat pagi dan petangImam Hasan Al-Banna1928 1949 ziarah lebih dari 3,0000 kampung

Tugas MutabaahTakrufMuayasyah

TakrufNama nama panggilanPekerjaanAlamatStatus perkahwinanKecenderungan, potensi, minatOrientasi pemikiranWawasan dan impianKeruhanianKadar keseriusan ibadah Kesihatan

TakrufKesihatanPendidikanKeluargaJadual hidupEmpat emosi utama:SukaSedihMarahPutus asa

Muayashah - BergaulMHI: 14 Dec. 2013 4 Jan. 2014Follow up, pemantauan

Bila Nak Muayashah?Sebelum dan selepas programQiamullaiRiadhahMasakMandiMathuratMakanDllSelepas MHI

Apa Yang Nak di Mutabaahkan?Perasaan ProgressIbadahAkhlakTidurCeramah, facilitator, tempat tidur, makanan, ahli kumpulan, faisliti, dewan ceramah, concern, etc.

Kenapa Mutabaah?Ia adalah rukun ketiga kerananya hendaklah sebahagian kamu memikul beban sebahagian yang lain. Demikian itulah intipati konkrit iman dan intisari ukhuwwah. Hendaklah kamu sentiasa bertanya sebahagian yang lain mengenai kehidupannya dan bersegeralah memberikan bantuan apabila diperlukan. (Majmuatur Rasail)

MutabaahTakruf ada catatan harianMuayashah ada catatan harian